Cancer Family

I feel like once you have entered this world of Cancer you create a family.  Gail and Michael are a couple that I met while my mother was going through treatment.  Michael would be getting chemo at the same time my mother was getting chemo and we always made conversation and brought treats to share. 

When my mother was in the hospital Gail came to see her which was so hard for her but she felt she had to do it.  Both Michael and Gail came to my mothers memorial which had to be extra hard.  This Cancer family you create understands the struggles and frustrations, the fears and in many cases loss.  The bonds in this family are strong and only you truly know the long struggle, the hope and false hope, the loneliness that comes with your own thoughts in quiet moments. 

I received a phone call today from Gail, Michael has been given months.  It is such sad news because Michael has had so many surgeries and gone through radiation only to be told his cancer is not only in his liver but is in his brain again and countless other tumors.  Basically his cancer has spread and there is nothing more the doctors can do for him. 

Like my mother Michael did everything the doctors told him to, he had several surgeries only to get to this point.  It is a frustrating and sad space to be in.  I told Gail to focus on the time they have and the memories they will always have. 

Don't listen to people that say time will heal because that is BULLSHIT time heals nothing you just get used to their absence. 

Please for everyone reading send positive vibes and prayers to this family as they still have a long road ahead.